Dear Dottie,

I have had a light bulb moment, after watching “Call The Midwife” tonight!

When I passed my full length mirror tonight I suddenly saw myself in a different perspective!

My tummy was its usual size; (round not flat). My bum was its usual size (always perceived it to be too big).  My boobs still needed an uplift!  But suddenly I felt good about my reflection.  Perhaps it is all the hard work that I’ve put in over the last few years with self acceptance beginning to have its effects.  Then I got to thinking.

My mind went back to a picture of the forties and fifties. The popular TV series “Call The Midwife” honed in on these decades.  Were women a different shape then?  Or was it a case that they were more accepting of the shape they were?

The average size of women then were around the size 14/16 mark and not the 6/8 as women expect to be nowadays.

Earlier in the day I was in a store, in the city and was browsing through the special Sale items of clothing. As usual most of the bargains were in a size 6, 8 or 10.  So what does that say about sizing? To me it says that if the store is selling off its surplus stock then the ones that they have sold successfully are the bigger sizes.  Which in turn leads me to believe that most women are still in a size 12, 14 or 16.  Because funnily enough the other sizes that they seemed to have plenty of were 18 and over.

We are led to believe that the smaller sizes are the normal ones, and that is what we should be aiming for. What’s more I find that the majority are women aiming to get down to that size. Life is passing them by while they are in pursuit of trying to be smaller.

Most of these women become chronic dieters, Bulimics, Anorexics and can even develop compulsive behaviour disorders.  They become obsessed with weighing themselves, exercising and starving.  Worried constantly about what to eat or not to eat, almost hating parties, family occasions and eating out with friends.

When I saw the tiny clothes in the store, waiting for all these perfect women to come and buy them, and then looked in the mirror this evening and saw my size 14 body, I suddenly realised that I am just a normal sized woman.

I have reached a stage where I can enjoy my food without guilt or hang ups at long last. I can enjoy my Real Food, keep away from processed foods, keep my carbohydrate to a sensible limit and never have to diet again!

I would like you to know how it can be done.

Would you like to feel like that? Or does the thought fill you with horror?

Food for thought?

Love from the new me!

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What Happens When The Diet Is over?


Diet is another name for eating regime, and if you look at it this way, the diet is never finished.  I came across an expression recently that says that we are born; we eat and then we die. Obtaining sustenance from food is vital to life itself and is first in the list of Maslows Hierarchy of needs, along with warmth and shelter. The instant that the baby is born, human or animal, it seeks the nipple and we do not have to teach it to suck once it latches on.

So perhaps the answer to the question is that the diet is never over!

But many people, when they reach their goal weight, assume that they can just start eating like they did before. It may be okay to tuck into the occasional treat, (occasional being the key word) and life would be pretty boring without them. But the average diet these days, and probably the way of eating that led up to the need to lose weight in the first place, can consist of too much in the way of sugary and starchy foods.

So finding out what to eat when reaching goal is not straightforward. A strict slimming diet can make the body learn to live on a lot less food, and in the experience of many dieters, researchers and studies, it seems that it cannot recover. Many experts advise people to step up the exercise, but this can be self defeating because exercise can just make you hungry. Exercise is good for you of course, but it is not the way to lose weight. You can read more about this in the book “Instinctive Fitness” by Oliver Selway & Charlie Packer. According to Oliver we need to exercise instinctively and not spend hours on the treadmill in the Gym.

So what can happen when the diet is over then?

As I have already mentioned when the diet is over we need to experiment. Many slimming clubs start a maintenance programme once people reach their goal, and some of them are good. The only problem is that some of them include sugary or sweet and starchy foods, which can be addictive, the food industry makes sure of that. It bears repeating that as these foods were more than likely included in the old way of eating before the person decided to lose weight, then it is best not to include them in the new way of eating after reaching goal.

In my experience adding one unprocessed food back into the diet, every few days is the way to go. This gives your body a chance to regain some balance and is a good indicator of what you can eat in the future without regaining.  Stick to foods with around three to five ingredients but at best just one. The fewer ingredients there are, the nearer to natural foods they are.

It may take a little patience and even a little weight gain, but don’t be afraid of that, because that is what experimenting is all about.  It can be enjoyable and fun finding out what your future way of eating for life is going to be.

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