Ageing & The Law of Polarity.

What is the Law of Polarity? 

‘Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

Alfred Lord Tennyson.


In the absence of that which we are not, that which we are, is not.

Neale Donald Walsh.


I love this law and remember it often in my everyday living.

It reminds me of needing to be grateful. Focusing on what I do have and not on what I don’t have.

There is polarity all around us. Hot and cold, soft and hard, happy and unhappy, love and hate, smooth and rough, big and small and so on.

It is indeed better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

A good example of this is with those of us who have pets. Because they have relatively short lives, we experience their loss over and over again. I would not even attempt to count the number of times that I have heard people say “I’m not going to have any more dogs, I’m never going to go through that again!” Yet in weeks or months and sometimes even days, there is the gorgeous new pup. It is not that we forget the previous pet, because every one of them has given us the experience of love, whether given or received and we know that pets give unconditional love. We love to have them around and we live with Tennyson’s mantra don’t we?

When we are going through tough times, it helps to remember the Law of Polarity, there is never an up without a down. If life was happy all the time, we would not appreciate it. The down times remind us that the up times are worth reaching for.

In the absence of that which we are not, that which we are, is not.

A simpler way of putting this is that when you are experiencing tough times, you can use them to learn about what you are made of.

  • You are worthy.
  • You are awesome.
  • You are worth it.
  • You are loved.
  • You have untapped talents.
  • You have knowledge.

Many people are just settling for what they see as their “lot” in life. They are unaware of their own powers and abilities.

There are a growing number of people who are becoming aware of the fact that they need not settle for what they have. They become aware of the absence of what they are not – but also become aware that they could do better- because of the fact that they have experienced what it was like (the absence) to be not. In other words if you are not aware of your ability to change things, then you may settle for what you are in the present moment. Never knowing about the person you could be.

This is the Law of Polarity working in a different way, because you need to become aware that there is a choice. But it is generally when you are having a tough time that you become aware that there are good times. This makes the good times even better than they were before the tough times!

This is one reason why life coaching and personal development is growing at such a rapid pace worldwide now.

People are realising that they do not have to settle for their “lot” in life. This works on two levels.

  • The practice of Gratitude, which is another way of counting your blessings.
  • The becoming aware of your own value and becoming happier.

This in turn becomes the way that people find their creativity and tap into the resources within them that they were never aware of.

So you see, next time you are having a tough time, take comfort in what you may learn about yourself while having that experience. You will be surprised at how this quickens up your recovery.

This applies to illness, bereavement, depression, losing your job, retirement, ageing, having young difficult children, caring for an ageing parent and so on.

I am talking from a place of experience of course, earlier this year I had a time of depression and burn out. But because I had already been made aware of this law I was able to use the time to listen, learn and relax. Long walks in the woods and reflecting and what I was learning from this time, got me back on my feet and I am now “glowing” with vitality and yearning to go, go, go. Bear in mind that I am not exactly a sping chicken!

You too could experience this ageing with vitality.

Remember that this is the Law of Polarity and it is in action whether you believe in it or not.

It is part of the Universal laws which keep the universe in motion.





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