For many people writing a life review can be challenging and may have prove to be a painful experience. Looking at the past can bring up emotions that you may have been carrying for most of your life and been unaware of.
On the other hand, many people also live their present day life believing that their past experiences are what made them the person that they are today. This is true of course, but if you don’t heal a painful past, you can let it rule your future.
You can still be the abused child, or the bullied teenager, or even the unhappy partner in a soured relationship. Without healing you can carry the past into the future and stay stuck there for the rest of your life.
This can be a very powerful and controlling factor to carry with you, often without realising that you are doing it.
The new relationship can be soured because maybe a disagreement brings up old stuff about the old relationship.
A new career may be threatened by something that happens or is said that reminds you of the old boss or something that you perceived as failure on your part.
The bullied tenager may still be with you many years later when you want to join a football team, but you can’t pluck up the courage to do it.
Many people who were bankrupt in the past, carry a sense of failure around with them for the rest of their lives where money is concerned.
I have witnessed many very old people who carry their past around with them, and become bitter and twisted and alienate everyone around them, including their carers.
Working with them as a carer taught me the importance of healing the past.
What I also witnessed was that the kindest and happiest people in those environments were the ones that attracted people to them.
You need to do this while you can, and the sooner you start the better. If you wait until you are older, you may become too incapacitated to do anything about it.
If you are reading this then you are well on your way to doing it. Or you may be reading it because you are concerned about someone elses peace of mind in their older years, and don’t quite know how to help them. A word of caution here though, remember that you cannot do it for them.
The process of healing the past cannot happen overnight. But it can happen!
It will be a bit like peeling an onion. You will deal with one thing and then something else that has been hidden underneath may come up. But don’t let that put you off.
It will be such a wonderful tranformative experience, that your new sense of freedom and joy will be almost addictive.
For today, look again at the experiences that brought up the painful stuff that you wrote down from the previous blog, and see which one you feel is the easiest one to deal with.
An essential part of healing the past is forgiveness. Look at the people who were concerned in this relatively easy one, and ask yourself if you can or have forgiven them. Including yourself.
The next blog will be looking at forgiveness. What seems an impossible task, can be done with some work on your part, but it is not such hard work as you may believe.
It will certainly help towards your journey of Healing the Past and Ageing with Vitality, health and peace of mind. Which in turn will bring you joy, peace and love not only to you, but to others around you.