Do we want to grow old?
If not, what is the alternative?
Age is not a particularly interesting subject. Anyone can get old. All you have to do is live long enough. Don Marquis
And it’s true, isn’t it?
This week was a very sad one when a friend of mine buried her 36-year-old daughter who had died of a brain tumour. Do you think the daughter would have liked to grow old? It was not easy for her to live long enough certainly.
Someone said to me recently “Don’t get old dear, it’s not nice.” I asked what the alternative would be, and she couldn’t find an answer. But we know, don’t we?
We, humans, are a funny lot don’t you think?
We want to live a long life, yet we spend most of that life fighting the business of ageing. And it starts in our late twenties. Many people of that age will live for another 70 years!! But as soon as there is the slightest sign of a grey hair or fine lines at the side of our eyes, we start to fight nature. Has it occurred to you that all we need to do is enjoy our lives, take good care of our bodies, and put ageing on the back burner. Believe me, it is going to happen, unless you die young!
Face Creams, Facelifts, anti-ageing products abound. How to stop the wrinkles, is the mainstay of many an advert to rob you of your money.
We want what we perceive is the ideal. Live a long life, but don’t age. Stay looking young, don’t have wrinkles, don’t go grey. When we have a colour we hear “Hey your hair looks great, makes you look a lot younger!”
Instead of learning about making the best of our latter years, we dread them. We treat them like a forbidden territory. We shun the thought of everything related to old age.
Many of us deny we will ever get old.
But until the day when there is a magic pill, we have to face that moment when we have to admit it is catching up with us.
The energy levels are not quite what they used to be. Bedtime gets earlier. We look in the mirror, and there is an older face in the way of the face we would like to see. We get back ache when standing too long. We notice people giving up their seats for us. (Yes! That does still happen.)
However, this does not mean that you have to give up and be old.
It does mean that you need to surrender, though.
Well, you may say, isn’t that the same thing as giving up?
The answer is a resounding “No.”
More about how to surrender to ageing tomorrow.
(And that does not mean surrendering to an old age that brings misery; quite the contrary.)
I hope that I have roused your curiosity.
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