A similar word to that of Mystery is Mastery, isn’t it?
While contemplating my own ageing process this morning, it has dawned on me that there is a lot around us these days about anti-ageing, conscious ageing, and even with myself “Ageing with Vitality.”
I have been through a transition in my life over the last couple of months, and the main theme of that transition has been “Surrender”. (Which I have written about in the previous few articles.) http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com/blog/
During that transitioning process, it has been a revelation to me that I simply cannot be in control of my own ageing. I cannot be the Master of my destiny.
However much I work at how to age consciously and with awareness, this still does not mean that I can control the outcome.
Ageing does bring about physical impairment, cognitive impairment and some amount of dependence.
I am watching the process of my Mothers very old years. In this process I am constantly reminded of my own ageing.
We are almost bombarded by stories of marvellous old people who are doing wonderful things at certain ages. Skydiving, marathon running, etc. Somehow ageing in a normal way is seen as a failure.
This is the mystery of ageing. We like to think that if we do this or if we do that, we won’t get old so quickly. We are putting off the evil day, as it were.
But think of the word mystery. We love to read a good mystery. We watch detective stories and love to try and solve who did it. As children, many of us used to read Enid Blyton Mysteries. Part of the excitement was the exploration.
But I want to live in the light of ageing, which will in turn light up the shadow side.
So while I cannot be the master of my ageing process, I can be seeing it as a great adventure. I can be excited at the discovery of the mystery of ageing.
I had a vision this morning of an adult person putting up a large silk tent. The colour was lemon and lilac. Underneath that tent, which was billowing, there was a small child waiting to put his little red tent up. Waiting for the adult to show him what to do.
At the time of this vision, I was meditating and thinking of how my Mother was at the age I am now. I am learning from her how to age and how not to age. I am hoping that the lessons that I am learning will stand me in good stead for when I am 94 years old.
I am learning from my Mother, how to put up my little red tent!
But the main thing is that I have already learnt today, at 7 am, that there is a narrow line between Mystery and Mastery.
I cannot control, or master my ageing process, but I can enter the mystery with wonder, and a sense of learning, discovery and spirituality.
Have you considered your ageing?
Are you in denial that it will happen?
Are you hoping to Master the outcome?
Or, are you going to see it as a big, scary adventure and solve the mystery of how to age with vitality and be in the light.