Am I Really a Sugar Addict?

Am I really an addict?

Just to make it clear, for many years I considered myself a Carbohydrate and sugar addict.

But just recently I have become aware that sometimes I enjoy certain foods. And perhaps I need to be kinder to myself. However, there is more behind the addiction than meets the immediate attention. So for example, an addict to alcohol may never be able to have just that one drink. Or the drug addict can never have just the one fix.

The word addict is used commonly in the 21st Century, and I am beginning to think that it just may be too common.

Let’s start with the Wikipedia description of addiction.

Addiction is a brain disorder characterised by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences.

The most frequent addictions and those who do the most harm, because they affect people around them too, leading to crime for the individual who needs their fix; are alcohol, drugs and gambling.

But we now use the word addiction to many other things. Such as sugar, food, internet games and so on.

But do you think that there are certain words that have become distorted from their true meaning? Are we giving the name to certain behaviours that are really quite harmless, and is only a desire for something nice, particularly for certain foods or our favourite computer game. Is the word addiction becoming overused?

I know that addiction can begin with not just liking something, but finding that it gives us a high, and we are more aware now of making sure that we don’t become addicted to certain activities. Even reading books has become something to be wary of. How often do you hear people say that they are addicted to reading, running, walking, exercise, and many healthy and useful activities?

Words can mean different things to different people.

Take the word “Diet”.  It simply means eating regime. So we are all on a diet!  But this word has now taken on negative connotations. Because we now know that slimming diets are futile, and we need to simply change our eating habits.

Now don’t get me wrong. I have written a lot about “not dieting”. I have three books on the subject on Amazon Kindle. And there are many blogs about it on my website. http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com.

I am the first to say that dieting is futile and that healthy eating for a lifetime is the best way to go. But the point I am making here is that we have made “diet” almost a dirty word.

So I wonder whether we are doing the same with the word addiction?

Are we too worried that behaviour, or liking something means that we are becoming an addict?

Let me give you an example.

Recently a friend said to me that she has started to have a scone in the afternoon for her tea. And followed this with the words “I’m becoming addicted to them.”

Then a few days later the same friend said to me that I (meaning me) am becoming addicted to oatcakes. That was because she had heard me say often lately that I love humous and oatcakes and often have that for my lunch.  But it was my reaction that startled me. I immediately went on the defensive and said that actually I had made the packet last a month!

Why did I do that?

Because I have been struggling with addictive behaviour around food all of my life, and now that I consider that I am mostly in control (another word that has negative connotations for addicts and dieter alike) I felt that she was being unfair and insinuating that I was an addict. But her remark was not meant to be derisory.

I see a society that is making us into victims, using the word addict to control our behaviour. We stop kids from enjoying games on the computer because we fear addiction. (I do believe that needs to be limited of course, but we need to think more about why.)

We are beginning to feel guilty if we eat cake in public. And many find themselves using words such as good, bad or too much cholesterol, or worry that they are becoming addicted.

We are still in the grip of not eating saturated fat, and the biggest sellers in supermarkets are still low-fat products. Even though it was proved two years ago that it is not harmful unless processed. Natural yoghurt, butter, olive oil, and other saturated fats are good for us. But in my generation, there are many sick people who lived on low-fat products for a very long time in the belief that they were doing the right things. Better to eat the grey, dull, so-called healthy margarine than butter which tastes good and does you good.

But I digress. I wonder how many of us deprive ourselves of the occasional treat of cake or a scone because we fear addiction.

After a lifetime of dieting, and feeling guilty over eating certain foods, and fearing that people will think I am an addict, I have been pondering recently about whether I really am an addict to certain foods, or whether I simply like them.

I must admit though that I need to watch myself. Because the occasional treat comes around to more than just occasional, I easily pile on the pounds. But, is that really addiction? Or do I just need to be more careful?

I haven’t got the answer of course, because I still have to control what foods I have in the house because I know for sure that sooner or later I would eat them all. Probably in one go!

But I count myself Free. That means that I have learnt what freedom really means.  If I want a scone when I am out, I have one. If I need painkillers to dull the constant pain of Fibromyalgia, I will take them. If my husband needs strong painkillers at times, it is a comfort to both of us that we have the ones that work.

I might reiterate here about the advice we have been given down through the years about what foods are good or bad for us. The debacle with eggs twenty years ago led people to believe that they should not have more than two eggs a week. That was eventually disproved.

We all know the one about red wine and how the advice changes from day to day in the press.

Cholesterol is also a sworn enemy.  But did you know that the body needs cholesterol?  It is our friend. And no, it won’t be controlled by diet. Yet we have been conned into believing that we should keep the levels down. But the older you are, the higher your cholesterol is naturally. It is the body’s way of healing. Yet authorities are hell-bent on making even the frailest of us keeping our cholesterol levels down.

In case you are wondering why I say this, listen to Zoe Harcombe talking about it. She was the woman who wrote the paper three years ago, on Saturated fat, and led to a lot of media cover about Butter not being harmful.

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And what does Society use to make us believe all this? Fear! Pure and simple. And the word Addict is a very useful tool for them.

So am I an addict?  Well up to now I have said that I am, but now I believe that I simply love refined carbohydrates, but I need to limit the amount that I eat.

I also love games such as Colour by Numbers, and also Solitaire on my computer. Recently I have been playing them and listening to audio-books at the same time. But all that means is that I have a desire to do that to help me relax. I just need to be careful that I do not spend more time than is sensible, to prevent me from doing the other things that I love.

So, perhaps we need to be aware of how much we deny ourselves the things we desire, by worrying about becoming an addict.

But please don’t see this as carte blanche for having anything you want, to the detriment of your wellbeing. I am only sharing my thoughts, not teaching!

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Do you wonder why you get drawn in every year to the mad mad feasting over Christmas, then Fast or starve for the New year?

Every year is the same isn’t it? Beginning around the first of December, it is “Eat drink and be Merry, for January 1st; we DIET!”

How many of you are swearing that you will never do it again? That you will go on a diet to end all diets, and never put on weight again.

But there is a way out of this never ending cycle. Where you can enjoy your food; all food, but understand your body and what it really wants.

These two books will set you on the path of freedom from dieting. They will also point out why we are all in this state of health in the twently first century. How to sort out the conflicting advice, and decide for yourself, with some knowledge of why you are in the trap, and what is best for you. It seems that every writer, club or expert, claims that their diet is the way to go. But these two books will make you become aware of why we behave as we do around food.

They are not special diet books, nor do they tell you what you should eat. They simply inform you of the politics of Dieting and also how food has evolved into the state it is in now.

Once you become aware of how you are being driven to eat the foods that you know are not contributing to good health, then you are on the track to food freedom.

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Death to Dieting.

Dieting to Death?

Or Death to Dieting?

As a writer and blogger and somewhat in my everyday life, I am an expert in two fields. Dieting or not, and anything connected to death.

It suddenly struck me today that there is a sort of link between them. Take Dieting for example.

Some people get into worrying so much about their weight that they do indeed die. That is the case with the psychological disease anorexia. This dangerous condition is often started with the desire to be thin and develops into a full-blown fear of food, any food.

But I would like to point out at this time of the year especially, that it is time to put dieting to death or rest.

It is the same every year, isn’t it? Feast until you drop over Christmas and the holiday season, then go on a diet to lose weight. How futile is that?

But this trend is mostly political. Do you think that you would indulge so much every year if there were not so much temptation? Do you think that you would feel the need to diet if you did not see the adverts to diet, by the same people who gave you all the foods that tempted you in the first place?

Isn’t it time to be able to make your own choices, and let your body tell you what it wants, rather than be thrown off course by all the conflicting advice out there?

How did we get here? How did we become a society that is led by the Food giants and corporations to eat the foods that are doing the damage?

Because I too was a victim of this sort of thinking for forty years, I have written two books on these subjects. I am now into my sixth year of taking control of my diet thinking, and even though I have not been perfect, I reckon myself to be an expert in the subject.

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Food; Friend, Fun or Foe?

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For over forty years, I considered myself a victim. To;

  • My Self Image
  • My ugly body
  • The fat on my body
  • Foods that just triggered me off
  • A compulsion to just carry on eating, even when fullSodDieting
  • Dieting to get rid of the fat and feelings of loathing
  • Calorie counting
  • Fat units
  • Food intolerance
  • Addiction
  • My fat belly

It took me nearly a life time to discover the root of why I have always had this battle. One of them being that as a child I was always being told to tuck my tummy in, and as a 14 year old I was issued with a corset to keep it in.

This message was not only coming to me from my Mother, but from my gran and also a teacher at school who was the ring leader in calling me GubGub after the pig in Dr Dolittles adventures.

I don’t blame any of them now, but I did for a long time, even of I was unaware of it.

Many new regimes of eating in our modern days, look at the physical side of control. But there is another deeper side to it all. Much like trying to run a car that keeps breaking down. Just filling it with more fuel, or a different type of fuel, will not fix the problem if it is the battery that is flat. So it is with humans. If we keep just thrusting down feelings, memories and resentment, we will never get to the root of the problem. Our batteries will always be flat.

Getting into the right place is not necessarily just about looking great. When we have an “inner” glow, we can look fantastic.

Part of my inner work that freed me up was forgiveness for all those people who gave me a false message, which I lived by.

I have had quite a journey over the years, some of it exciting, some not, but always challenging.

It is a wonderful thing to be free of the tyranny of forever worrying about my shape and my looks.

How do you go about finding that inner glow, which gives you confidence in yourself, and frees you up from the necessity of the “Forever Diet?”

I would love to hear your comments.

Either here, or perhaps on my Facebook page.

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Fat is Good for Ageing Bodies!

 

 

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So what do I mean by Fat is Good?

Fat has been demonised for over thirty years now. During the 1980’s this demonisation was taken up by the Food and Diet Industry, and big bucks were made.

Yet it has never been proved that fat was bad, with the exception of transfats, which are toxic.

Baby Boomers, those born between 1945 and 1965 were the ones who became convinced that the only way to keep weight off and be healthy was to eat low fat foods. Later generations then inherited the myth and our stores are still full of low fat or fat free products.

People are often shocked when they hear that fat is not so bad after all, and somehow they cannot bring themselves to enjoy higher fat products.

I probably need to add that its the combination of fat, sugar and additives that are damaging peoples health, so don’t go lathering butter on your bread or malt loaf!

It is worth knowing that because many of us who were sucked into this myth, are suffering the results with early skin problems.

Did you know that fats and oils are ESSENTIAL to the body. Fatty acids are building blocks just like protein is.

They are beneficial to our skin, vision, brain function, bone density and hormone production.

Make sure they are healthy fats, and that includes butter! Contrary to popular belief saturated fat does not go straight to our arteries.

There is so much information now, much of it is contradictory, the media confuse people too. Do the research yourself and find out.

You will find out more by reading my book about the politics of dieting and food.

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Ageing and Calorie Restriction.

 

 

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Today I thought you may be interested in looking at the positive side of calorie restriction.

If you follow my writings and books, you will know that I advise people not to count calories.

However what I do say is that we need to be aware of them.

There are some regimes around that encourage people to just eat as much as they like as long as they eat natural foods, without any additives, or processing and have been adulterated out of all recognition of how food was meant to be consumed by humans.

This is so true!

Many people find that once they do eat naturally they do not crave more food than their body needs, so the amount of calories that they consume is reduced automatically.

This will work if you have never had problems with bingeing, sugar addiction, or eating disorders.

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As we grow older, the body naturally reduces the appetite. So therefore we need to trust what our body is telling us, and eat less.

Simples!

We all have a source within us that is not being heard or listened to.

As history has progressed and we have moved further away from nature and that source, we are losing the ability to be aware of what our body actually needs.

Have a look at how aware you are as you grow older.

One way of telling if you eat too much is whether you suffer from indigestion!

If you eat a moderate amount of natural foods then this will not happen.

(However the body may be suffering from digestive disorders because of the abuse we gave them with the onslaught earlier in life, even if we did not binge, but simply ate the wrong foods. It is never too late to change that.)

So when you hear about restrictive intake of calories, just remember that the essential thing is to;

  1. Be aware of what your body is telling you.
  2. Only eat natural wholesome foods.
  3. Stay away from sugary, starchy, processed junk.
  4. Watch your portions.
  5. Stop eating when you are full.

Then the calories will take care of themselves without going to the extreme measures of plates full of nothing but leaves!

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Us and Them!

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We hear a lot about the environment ruining our health.

We hear a lot about the way that humans do not take care of the environment, and how it is ruining the state of the planet.

We blame the Food companies, Pharmaceutical companies, the Government, our doctors and on and on.

Always “Them” but how often do we look at “Us?”

But how willing are we to do something about it?

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Take health for example.

In the days of the internet, thousands of books, television and newspapers, we have all the information and knowledge that is available to us, yet many people just sit and claim that their ill health is someone else’s fault.

Claims are made that they are confused with conflicting advice. “They say one thing one minute and another the next” is heard so often in conversations.

Even articles in the newspaper can be confusing as we read them. Just this week I read an article on a new book about gut flora and obesity. Part of the article was to say that beer can be good, and the writer would have said something along the lines that beer has plenty of flora in it.

But the journalist then made his own little extra box, with the headline. “Good news; beer is ok!” and went on to say that wine and beer are healthy. Many people would not bother to find out what that was all about and claim that the paper said that it is ok for us drink alcohol.

The point that I am making here is that we all need to do our own research using the tools that I mentioned earlier.

You might then say that all this information can still be confusing.

I agree. So what to do?

Look within!

We have been given by nature and God, the ability to use our own wisdom and judgment. These days He has given us some fantastic tools to go along with that. Do you ever get a gut feeling about something?

You may be reading, or watching television, and you get this feeling that something is not quite right.

I bet that before now you have been talking to someone and you know that they are lying. Where do you think that feeling comes from? It is commonly known as our Gut feeling, or instinct or intuition. I have heard it called discernment too.

Or even more importantly how far within ourselves are we willing to look?

How willing are we to think, really think, about what could be the answer?

Do we just sit back and let others tell us what to do?

Do we just jump on the next seemingly good idea that comes along?

Then blame “them” when the diet fails, or we cannot stick to our new healthy way of living.

Another idea that springs to mind is the story of a famous runner, whose name escapes me, who, years ago encouraged many to take up jogging, then died of a heart attack. So many people then gave up running or would not take it up because it seemed that running was dangerous.

How many of those people actually bothered to find out the facts themselves?

Most of us have the ability to find out for ourselves what the truth is.

Then to follow our intuition about what is right for each one of us. Therein lies the key! We are all different and have different needs.

Not just on a level of “That sounds good, I’ll try that.”  But by finding out for ourselves and using our intuition.

So are you going to find out what is the truth and be conscious about your choice?

I will examine where consciousness comes into it on another blog. But maybe this one will give you food for thought.

You have the inner ability and wisdom to find out for yourself what is right for you!

 

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Willpower or Addiction?

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SodDietingAccording to Dictionary.com the definition of Willpower is;

Control of one’s impulses and actions; self-control (noun)

The definition of Addiction is; 

The state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming such as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma.(noun) 

So if you are struggling with problems of feeling out of control, and are wondering what it is that is keeping you in this trap of unhealthy habits, perhaps it is not a matter of will power.

You may make a decision that you are going to eat healthily, give up smoking, give up alcohol, or come off certain addictive drugs.

You  have used your will power to make the decision. 

Then you have to tackle the addiction.

Giving up smoking, alcohol (if you have become aware of a problem in your life with this substance) and drugs is certainly not easy.

I have been through giving up smoking and coming off anti-depressants. 

I tackled them with recognising the problems they were causing me. (Decision to use will power)

Then I was forced to recognise that  will power on it’s own was not enough, I was addicted!

I had to recognise this because of the pain I experienced when stopping.

After a lot of struggle and difficulty I did it. But I had support from the GP and certain nicotine aids.

I recognised that I had an addiction that needed to be changed.

But there is another problem that society is not getting to grips with.

FOOD ADDICTION!

You can get help and support for coming off drugs, alcohol and smoking, but are you getting support for the food addiction?

The folllowing is a typical scenario.

You have been told to eat more healthily. The reasons may be varied, such as obesity, Type 2 diabetes or certain bowel disorders just for a start.

You may get more appointments to see the practice nurse, diabetes clinician, or even a dietician. But they are for the illness or disease.

Most times the professional does not recognise that you have an addiction to food! They believe that it is all in the mind and you just have to use willpower!

Which brings us back to what I was saying about willpower and addiction.

The decision to eat in a healthy way lies with you! No one else can make this decision for you.

Now comes the hard bit. Everyone is giving you different advice, the media, friends, diet books, the NHS or other government bodies. No-one can agree with what is best. When you go back to the nurse or clinician, you feel a failure because you have not stuck to the diet!

There you are in the middle and don’t know where to turn.

But even with all the advice in the world you are still not being recognised as a FOOD ADDICT.

Yes, there is such a thing.

Yes, you will have withdrawal symptoms when you give up sugar, and all the other junk that is in a product that is called food, but actually is not real food!

No! It is not just a matter of willpower!

So the secret is to recognise the ADDICTION, Own it and ask yourself what help you are going to get?

As a Life Coach specialising in helping to change your thinking around food, and lifestyle choices I can help.

I cannot cure you, or make the decision for you. I will not tell you what to do.

But I can guide you in the right direction, help you to find resources and be a mentor in your day to day experiences.

MOST OF ALL I CAN HELP YOU TO RECOGNISE RESOURCES WITHIN YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE UNAWARE OF. 

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Destination & Weight Management.

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What happens when you reach your destination?

 I am a fan of “Boston LegaI,” a programme about a law firm in Boston that is full of irony and wit.

In one programme, there was a remark by Alan (for those who know him) when talking to Denny, (who was feeling down because his favourite football team had won the championship.)

Denny had been supporting this team for nearly all of his life, now suddenly the thrill of wanting this had been removed!

Alan said to him something along the terms that it was not the destination that was the thrill, but the journey getting there. You need another interest to give you a challenge.

Is that how it is with weight management?

And is that why many people find it difficult to maintain the weight once they reach their goal?

The diet, and the thrill and anticipation of the number dropping on the scales have been removed.

We gradually start to put on weight because deep down now that we have reached our goal, life in the day to day maintenance has become tedious.

We miss the thrill of someone saying “Haven’t you lost weight?”

Do you identify with this?

  I know I did when I was caught up in the diet trap!

So perhaps once you reach your goal, think of another challenge, rather than just controlling your weight.

Chances are once you relax and just eat what you know you can, you can put the weight issue on the back burner, simply keeping an eye on it, but not making it your main aim in life.

Life becomes something else rather than just what you eat!

Be aware, be watchful but don’t be obsessive.

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Obesity Among Young British Women.

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Obesity among young British women is the worst in Europe.

A programme on British Television on 4th September 2014, investigated this phenomenon.

I am not going to be among those people who blame the women!

 They have had enough of that already.

The people that I would blame though are the ones who seem to be ignoring the truth!

We are constantly hearing the mantra Eat Less and Do More

If it was that simple, we would not now be in the midst of such a mess. 

There are now many studies, books and papers, showing that controlling your weight is not just about calorie counting and getting more exercise.

Do not get me wrong though.

Yes, it is healthy to be aware of your calorie intake, but not to be counting them and relying on this to control your weight.

Zoe Harcombe, Gary Taubes and John Briffa have researched this. So you can look this up for yourself.

Google it!

Also, it is healthy to keep active and to do certain exercises. But this will only tone you up and will not make you lose weight.

You have to walk a mile to burn 100 calories. Have you walked a mile lately?

Assuming that you are eating a healthy diet, then that would be the equivalent of an apple!          .

Imagine if you had a doughnut, which is laden with 400 calories, are you willing to walk 4 miles to burn that off?

And that is working under the assumption that the doughnut is the only thing you ate.

The surgeon being interviewed who was operating on these women, commented that surgery was the only answer.

Not true, my friends.

With a combination of;

  • Eating only real food, avoiding starchy, processed foods and anything with sugar in.
  • Looking at whether you could be intolerant to certain foods, or addicted to them.
  • Sorting out your beliefs and how you think

This could be the answer.

It is not easy, but it is certainly a better answer and it is a far better alternative to having your body cut up and taking away how nature designed our digestive system.

So sorry, but surgery is not the only answer.

If only the NHS and other Government bodies in other countries, would be more open to what we, the people who are working hard and have been there ourselves struggling with weight and food issues, have to say. Then we could all  move on.

But that’s politics for you!

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