Birthday Blog. Wizzdom. The Truth Has Set Me Free

On my birthday this year, I can truly say that “The Truth Has Set Me Free.”

Life in my older years is proving to be the very best ones of my time on Planet Earth. I am healthy; I am living in Abundance, I am loved, and I am full of the joy and peace that passes all understanding.

Like everyone else, I do have adversity and challenges along the way, and at times I doubt and fear. But I know for certain that everything is here to help me. And underneath it all, I know that the Universe has my back.

I have my new book coming out very soon now. Publishing a book is a long drawn out process, but I promise that it will be here in the next couple of months.

“The Truth Has Set Me Free” (the illustration above has one word change, because its a draft copy of the cover) is a story of how I was brought up in a Christian Fundamentalist faith. It describes my upbringing in the fifties, my engagement and first marriage at the tender age of sixteen and nineteen respectively.

There was fun as a child, and that fun is described in the book, including the games we played and the physical freedom of children in the nineteen fifties.

But as I got into my early teens, life became lonely and experienced an isolation which lasted for many years.

I describe how the fundamental upbringing had affected two previous generations. Which resulted in heartache, narcissism and for myself late adolescence at the age of forty, having not had one as a teenager.

The truth for me has come about since I saw the light at the age of forty, which like many other women, was followed by Divorce. But I was also conned out of thousands of pounds because of my naivety, became bankrupt and lost everything I had ever accumulated, including a large business, houses, my dogs and furniture.

But the fact that everything is sent to help us is so true. I met a wonderful man, who became my second husband, and he set me on the road to learning. In the last twenty-six years since I met him, I have developed a thirst for knowledge. Part of my upbringing was that knowledge was not important. The main aim in life was to be saved and get to Heaven which carried on into my first marriage and becoming totally immersed in those beliefs. That meant that many books that threatened to reveal anything other than the teaching in those churches were banned.

Then in 2011 at the age of 67, I studied at University to become a Life coach.  The learning there opened up a whole new way of seeing life.

All along, the Truth was setting me free from the bondage of the past, and the chains that had bound me to the belief that I was not good enough.

Now, I have reached a point in my life that is another transition. From the rush and pressure of being the best, and having to work at it, I can now trust wholly in the Divine.

Just before I left any established church, I had what I realise now was a light bulb moment, when I told other Christians, that the teachings of the church limited God. I realised that God was the Universe and everything around us. But fundamentalist belief attempted to trap God into a set of beliefs, a building, a set of people who thought they knew better than anyone else. Most of all that only Christians and “Saved” ones at that; could inherit the Kingdom. They taught and still do, that there is an Apocalypse coming and only Christians would be saved from that because they would be taken up into the air to meet the Saviour. Known as the Second Coming.

If you don’t know what I am talking about, I should give it a miss!

What I know to be the Truth, is what I had said then, without all the knowledge that I have accumulated since then. There has had to be a lot of forgiveness on my part, both for others, and myself.

The book has taken me over two years to write, and in the last year, the end of the book took on a life of its own, describing my Mothers death and how my brother and myself at long last understood why she had such an unhappy life.

Simply because she had never allowed herself to be loved, both by God and her beloved husband, my Dad. And in turn us and anyone else who wanted to show any compassion for her in her last days. She never understood that; We are all one; we are all part of God; we are all equal; we can all become conscious of those facts, and we are all loved. That love is a vital force; stronger than faith or hope.

We are all created to be the person we are, without having to be saved again by the same being who created us.

God is bigger than having to send someone to die, to correct the mistake he made when he created humans.

I have not accumulated a fortune; I do not live in a mansion, I don’t even own a car. But I feel as if I have riches beyond measure.

I feel quite amused now when I hear people who already have more than enough money say; When I win the lottery I will ………………………………….

I feel as if I have won more than the lottery. Because I know the Truth and it has set me free.

By the way, you may be wondering why the new word “Wizzdom” is included in the title of this blog. It is my new brand name, to cover all the hats I wear in supporting people. My specialities are; Weight and Food Management, Ageing with Vitality, Facilitating end of life planning and I am a Funeral Celebrant. I think that word “Wizzdom”, suggested by a friend, just about covers the wisdom I have gained over a lifetime of experiences and adventures in living.

 

Please follow and like us:

Surrender to Age?

 

happycherry_cover

As we go through our lives, we unconsciously make transitions through several changes in our lives.

But only unconsciously as we define it in our eyes.

Because in a lot of ways we make conscious decisions, or they are made for us.

When we are born, we are placed in the care of adults. We may be born to that adult, or they may adopt us in some way. In any case, we would not survive without being in the care of a responsible adult. Consequently, they are making decisions for us.

We are all greatly influenced by others decisions for us, but as we grow older, we start to realise that many of these decisions are not the ones which we would choose for ourselves. They have not been conscious, informed decisions.

So when we reach our teenage years, we can rebel. Often we rebel in a diverse way, far apart from anything that our carers think is the right thing.

We almost become strangers to ourselves. If we do not make a choice at this age, and just go along with the status quo, and what is expected of us, it will happen sooner or later.

I did not become aware that I had a choice until I turned forty years of age. When it did happen there were consequences that literally brought the roof down over my head! (Details will be in a book that I have decided to write!)

I did not “surrender to getting married, having children and being a good little Christian and housewife.  All the time that I was in this role, my spirit was rebelling. I was not submissive, although people around me were telling me I should be. What I did, was go along with the flow and “give in” to what I thought was expected of me. That was what good little women should do. I had been taught that if I went against the flow, there would be dire consequences. And so I lived in fear.

In my previous blog, I talked about the difference, with ageing,  between “giving in” and “surrender.”  I promised  I would tell you the difference.

My story above is a typical example. I will add that there were dire consequences, but, at the end of the day, I am so glad that I did not spend the rest of my life in a “giving in” and boring way. The life that I have had since I stopped giving in, has been exciting and I feel liberated.

When we know the truth, it will make us free!

We are ageing throughout our lives. In many cases, we are giving in, especially while we are children and naïve. Maturity brings wisdom. As we go through life, we start to make conscious choices, or not. Some people never make consious choices, and live their entire lives doing what is expected of them or “giving in.”

If we don’t make conscious choices, then we will just go along with or give in to what our peers or elders expect. We may smoke, drink or not. We may eat healthily or not. We may decide to have a baby because our friends have them. We may decide to have sex because everyone else seems to be doing it.

This is not surrendering, it is giving in to what is expected of us.

So what about retirement and the third age?

We expect to have certain illnesses. We are expected just to go on outings. We are expected to join the senior citizens club.

We have less energy, become forgetful, may need a stick, not see so well. Become hard of hearing.

We start to lose friends to death, or to Dementia.

We feel as if we are falling into an abyss of old age, and it can be frightening and depressing. BUT ONLY IF YOU ALLOW IT, BY JUST GIVING IN to what is expected.

Consequently as a younger person, usually in our late fifties or early sixties, we start to become aware of these things happening, and we become afraid, deny it is happening and try everything we can to avoid it.

This is where surrender comes in. This is where we make conscious decisions.ConsciousAgingLogo

While we are in our sixties, we need to start planning ahead. Look at surrendering to ageing, with an intention.

If you are reading this as an older person, you can start to change things now.  It is never too late.

We can fight the older years, become stressed out with the battle, and make ourselves ill, frail, depressed or lonely.

OR, we can give in and go along with the flow of what is expected.

OR, best of all, we can surrender to the ageing process, but at the same time find out what our intention will be in our older years.

With intention, life in our older years can be a pleasure.

My next blog will be about how we can have intention in our older age, and see those years as Eldership, not just being old.

For more on Ageing with Vitality, go to http://www.patriciacherrylifecoach.com

caringsupportwh

Please follow and like us: